Why can’t I orgasm? Could hormones be the reason?

Do you ever feel like sex is a ‘close but no cigar’ situation? No matter how hard you or your partner try, you just can’t seem to get those fireworks going? 

You might be wondering, ‘why can’t I orgasm?’ It can feel confusing, especially if certain foreplay and techniques that used to excite you are now leaving you feeling a little flat. But, rest assured that it's not your fault. 

There can be many reasons why you’re struggling to orgasm. Here are a few.

Your body is in overdrive

That’s right - your stress levels play a huge part in how much you enjoy sex. When we’re feeling anxious or tense, our brains have a hard time switching off, making it tricky to relax enough when we get intimate. 

There are a few things you can do to lower your cortisol levels day-to-day. We recommend journaling, taking time out of your busy schedule to exercise or reading a book to relax. Prioritising self-care is important and by taking part in activities you enjoy can make a big impact on your ability to enjoy sex again. 

You’re feeling disconnected from your partner

For women in particular, romantic connection is what keeps us wanting more. We know we can’t get on with our partners 24/7, but going to bed frustrated after a disagreement, or bottling up our emotions can lead to us feeling disconnected. When we feel this way, sex can be less fun, less stimulating and a little flat. 

Sex is all about feeling safe, connected and relaxed. That’s why open communication is key, and why listening to each other matters, even when one of you is annoyed about the empty toilet roll being left on the side… again.

Take time to prioritise your relationship. Whether it’s going on a date, cuddling in front of the TV, sharing meals together or walking the dog, these everyday moments can help strengthen your connection and bring you closer again.

Your medications come with uncomfortable side-effects

Did you know that 76% of us in the UK are taking contraceptives? 

Certain medications, including SSRIs, hormonal contraceptives and blood pressure tablets may be leaving you feeling less excited about sex and struggling to reach orgasm. But, understanding the side effects of your medication can help you find ways to get your mojo back.

Pssst… you can read our blog about getting your mojo back here! 

You’re in need of a lifestyle change

Smoking, excessive alcohol consumption and not enough sleep are all responsible for your libido going walkies. If you’re serious about spicing things up again, reducing these can massively boost your sex drive and help you reach the big O. 

Remember, the recommended consumption of alcohol per week is 14 units. So, you’ll still be able to enjoy a nice red wine on date night - in fact, red wine is an aphrodisiac 😉and you can read all about those in our blog on famous aphrodisiacs. 

You have a hormone imbalance

Our bodies rely on a complex balance of hormones to regulate everything from body temperature and metabolism to mood, energy levels and sexual desire. When hormones become imbalanced, you may notice changes in how your body responds, including during sex, which can make it harder to become aroused or reach orgasm. This is more common in women reaching perimenopause and menopause, but can affect anyone no matter your age or gender. 

The good news? 

At Hormones and You, we have treatments for a range of hormone imbalance problems, including pleasure, libido, sleep, PMS, and energy and it all starts with taking our medical questionnaire. 

“I was feeling flat, foggy and very unlike myself. Using the hormone cream has brought my 'me'-ness back!”

• -Customer Review

Ready to get your orgasms back? 

If you’re struggling to orgasm then we’ve got just the trick with our doctor-developed Arousal Cream. 

Made just for women, our Our Arousal Cream has been expertly developed to target the hormones that help you get those fireworks under the sheets. 

Applying the cream 30 minutes before intimacy increases blood flow to the right organs, treating low libido and sexual dysfunction, supporting arousal and sexual wellbeing. 

It starts with a quick consultation form, discreet delivery and a romantic date to get in the mood.

You won’t be wondering ‘why can't I orgasm?’ for much longer, with this in your bedside drawer 😘